Gimme gimme gimme
Feb. 23rd, 2005 10:19 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
teleribAt some point in the next few months, Moe and I will start a wedding registry somewhere. At some point after that, we'll send out wedding invitations.
I have, in the past, received invitations with any number of enclosures. Typically, hotel information, directions, and (gasp) a registry card. This has never unduly concerned me, nor struck me as either rude or mercenary. This is useful, wedding-related information. And with stamps closing in on $0.50 each, who wants to afford a second mailing?
But, every etiquette maven out there assures me, including such things - especially the registry card - is Not Done. Including maps and whatnot to local guests smacks of the mass-mailing; easily fixed, leave those things out of the local invitations. But the cards! Zounds, that's like begging for money. Guests shouldn't feel obligated to give gifts.
Well, of course they shouldn't. But something like 85% of them are going to want to know where I'm registered. Is my maid of honor seriously supposed to field the calls of the entire guest list to pass on this information?
I can see the point. Really. But the... inefficiency of the traditional word-of-mouth method grates on my little engineering soul.
I have, in the past, received invitations with any number of enclosures. Typically, hotel information, directions, and (gasp) a registry card. This has never unduly concerned me, nor struck me as either rude or mercenary. This is useful, wedding-related information. And with stamps closing in on $0.50 each, who wants to afford a second mailing?
But, every etiquette maven out there assures me, including such things - especially the registry card - is Not Done. Including maps and whatnot to local guests smacks of the mass-mailing; easily fixed, leave those things out of the local invitations. But the cards! Zounds, that's like begging for money. Guests shouldn't feel obligated to give gifts.
Well, of course they shouldn't. But something like 85% of them are going to want to know where I'm registered. Is my maid of honor seriously supposed to field the calls of the entire guest list to pass on this information?
I can see the point. Really. But the... inefficiency of the traditional word-of-mouth method grates on my little engineering soul.
Re: Include the registry info
Date: 2005-03-01 04:39 pm (UTC)Ps: so will that chocolate fondue fountain end up on the list?
- Hiddenshoe (That non drinking german friend of yours. I'm trying not to plaster my name all over the 'net.)
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Date: 2005-03-01 06:10 pm (UTC)Non-drinking? You? Since when?
well
Date: 2005-03-01 08:04 pm (UTC)*hic*
Oh wait, just drunk on chocolate. Sorry, false alarm.
- Hiddenshoe